Father's Day Thoughts

It was not long after Justin and my first date that I realized I was going to marry him. He challenged me, he made me laugh, he opened doors for me, he went to church with me... I could go on and on about all the boxes he checked. I would daydream about our life together and I always envisioned how he would be as a father. I saw him working in the lawn with his son running behind him. I could see him out on the tennis courts with our kids practicing their backhands. I thought about Justin teaching our daughter how to drive one day. I could see him first row at the recitals. It all played out in my head.

Well here we are, nearly eight and a half years after that first date and Justin still challenges me. He still makes me laugh. He still opens doors for me. And, yes, he still goes to church with me. Every daydream I had about us keeps coming true and then some.

You see... Justin is all of the things I envisioned as a dad. When Adele was a newborn, he took turns waking up with her. He researched all of the baby contraptions and bought the best he could find. He cheered her on as she took her first steps. All of those were good things, but when Elliot came around, I realized just how exceptional a father he really was.

 

My daydreams were picture perfect, but what I have seen in the last year has been so, so real. The kind of real that brings happy tears to your eyes and makes you never forget to thank God. The kind of real you actually have to pinch yourself because you can't imagine anything this divinely wonderful happening to you.

While I'm sure that one day I will see Justin working in the lawn with Elliot running around him, what I've seen this year is a dad that is so much more. I've seen a daddy that rushed to the NICU to bottlefeed his premature baby while mom was still in recovery. A dad that meticulously labeled and stored pumped breastmilk while Elliot was too weak to eat. A dad that used his lunch breaks daily to come see his boy in the NICU. A dad that has made every single cardiologist and specialist appointment no matter the time of day. A dad that through it all, still reads bedtime stories to his daughter every night.

But most importantly, I've seen a dad on his knees in prayer. A dad who while his expectations were altered, picked up the pieces God gave him and stood strong in his faith. A dad that is completely and deeply in love with his kids no matter the amount of chromosomes they have.

I've told Justin many times this year that I can't imagine doing life with anyone else. And that's true. Justin makes me a better person, a better mom. So, happy Father's Day, Justin. You are loved. You are appreciated. Thank you for all you do for our family!

PS... I also have to throw in a shout-out for my dad and Justin's dad. What awesome men they are! How blessed Justin and I are to have the dads we have. Adele and Elliot definitely have the best grandfathers ever!